Embracing the art of perfecting midlife glam! Sexnfries podcast episode 28

Anything can throw you off your game—divorce, death, loss of a career, or even something as subtle as menopause, hair loss, unwanted hair, or mood swings. The list goes on, and all of these can derail your self-confidence. Self-confidence influences how you feel, how you look, and what you expect from yourself.

Recently, my daughter was dramatically horrified by the return of 90s fashion. Meanwhile, I spent the 90s in maternity clothes or anything that could withstand grubby little hands. As she lamented feeling old at 30, I chuckled and said, "Wait for it. All the eras will come back around at least two or three times in your lifetime. You might as well embrace it—bell bottoms, banana clips, and go-go boots will make their comeback!"

So, Midlife Glam—what does that even mean? It’s about looking your age but also figuring out how to do that without dressing like your grandmother, even if you are one. You shouldn’t dress like your daughter either, no matter how much she borrows your clothes. Aim to look sexy—like a seasoned madam or a disco dancer!

My personal style is a bit eclectic, but I’ve added a few things just because I can. It matters not what anyone thinks; I see you looking!

When it comes to showing cleavage, those girls have been through a lot—they deserve their moment in the spotlight. Tight faux leather pants can express so much. Dresses are comfy, airy, and add an air of mystery—what is she hiding besides her belly?

Heels look amazing, even if I feel like a deranged giraffe after a long night of whiskey. Comfy clothes? My comfy clothes are my pajamas! Jumpers look great, or so the saleslady says. I wore one out once and had to have my husband pull the zipper down in the back while I held my hair out of the way. My rings got caught in my necklace, and the other one got stuck in my hair—I finally made it to the bathroom!

I used to be self-conscious about my clothes and how I looked to others, rather than how I felt in them. Then this midlife revelation hit me like a freight train full of indifference. Now, I buy for myself and for fun. I love vintage clothing, and yes, dear daughter, the 90s are now considered vintage!

It feels great to receive compliments on your clothing choices. I make a point to give compliments about others' outfits, and I only voice the positive ones.

So, wear whatever you please in your midlife. You look perfect in anything when you express yourself through your wardrobe. They say to dress in a way that reflects who you want to be. So here’s to those wearing jumpers—you are now a woman who can’t go to the bathroom alone without assistance! Hope that’s what you wanted to be!